Our members know the society best.
Here is some of the feedback we have received from them.
To Whom It May Concern:
I was in a car accident in 2008, four days before Christmas. I went from one reality to another.
Depression hit like never before, I couldn’t figure out how to get out of it. I felt like I couldn’t do anything. I couldn’t get motivated. I lost my ability to work, I lost my home. I ended up living in a hotel, and then at a transition house, without access to any of my personal belongings. I e-mailed my family and said I didn’t think I could go on.
I heard about the Victoria Brain Injury Society and came to see one of the case managers. I cried through the first two sessions. With the case manager’s help, gradually over time, I started to heal. I began educating myself on what the brain does. I realized I had acquired several mild traumatic brain injuries over the course of my life and the car accident had made everything worse. I started recognizing that I had challenges with impulsiveness, anxiety, stress, motivation initiation and was lacking basic social skills. The case manager suggested I take the Society’s Coping Strategies Course.
I would have never survived my experience at the transition house experience without the Coping Strategies Course. I had to deal with so much noise at the house, with 20 different people living in the same household. I felt overwhelmed. Sitting at the dinner table at night was too much, I could never relax. Coping taught me to use the STOP method: Stop what you are doing, Think about potential options, Observe the situation, Plan what to do next. I would use this every day at the house. I got through it all by using mechanisms that really helped me manage my emotions, that stopped me from being depressed.
I was sending nasty e-mails to family and friends because my brain injury would cause me to misinterpret what people said. When I later learned more about what I was going through, I realized I didn’t have to lash out at others. I came into Coping Strategies Course without these insights. I am coming out of the program with so many of them.
Our teacher has helped me realize that I don’t have to suffer. I am learning how not to suffer. I am learning that I can stop before I react to things; to make sure I am clear on what communication I just received and respond appropriately, rather than impulsively. This has helped me with my social skills and anxiety and stress. I was so stressed out when I was impulsive, and would be irritable for no reason at all because I misunderstood what someone said. Now I realize that I can get things wrong so I don’t go into the anxiety and stress. This has helped me so much.
Everyone in our Coping class is very, very relieved to have a place to go where we have something in common with others. We are suffering in all the same ways. With the group I have made connections. We have decided to go walking together, to do art programs together. The camaraderie carries on outside of the class. We are forming a support system outside of the group, which is a huge thing for all of us.
We are so thankful to have a place to go to express what we’re going through. Each one of us has realized that we got a different personality after our injury and our old reactions are no longer appropriate. We must now think about how to respond in a way to our families and friends in ways that will help them understand what brain injury is. We are carrying the information we have learned in the course to our family and friends, clearing up strained relationships. We can now teach our family and friends the things that come along with brain injury so they aren’t going to be upset when we may do something inappropriate. They can understand when we have trouble with word finding or short term memory, and that we live in the now and have trouble planning things in advance.
This course has taught me that the brain is always finding new pathways, which is very promising and motivating. I believe now that I could go back to school or back to work. I may not work in the same capacity as I used to, but if I start out slowly I am optimistic that I can do it. I can go back to being a contributing member of society and giving something back for all the help I have received. My sense of self has gone from being very dire to thinking I can return to work in a part-time capacity. Between the Victoria Brain Injury Society and the transition house, I’ve been able to find a place, where I live with friendly, safe people. I am now in my own place with my own things. I am only a couple of blocks from the society and actively participate in the society’s programs.
The society and the Coping program helped me bring to light many things about my injury and the impact it has had on my life. I don’t have to be afraid that there is something wrong with me, I’m just a different person now. It has helped me take steps to move through the grieving process, knowing I will never be the same person I used to be. I accept who I am now and will go on with a positive outlook.
Since my brain injury in 2003 the Victoria Brain Injury Society has provided me with hope and understanding, as well as giving me an opportunity to help others through the Peer Support program.
The dedicated staff are the driving force behind the society. All of its members appreciate the time and effort they project. The society has empowered the peer support members to discover themselves through their program and through counselling.
I wish to thank them all for a second change at leading a productive life in the community.
To Whom It May Concern:
Since my accident two years ago, the Victoria Brain Injury Society has become an integral part of my recovery process and continues to be a valuable part of my life. My injury brought on challenges and problems I was not prepared to undertake nor could foresee. Isolation and withdrawal was, at the time, my preference. I initially approached VBIS with some scepticism and indifference believing my healing was my responsibility with the exception of a very few outside the medical and professional domain. So with some reluctance I entered the doors of the VBIS to begin my ongoing recovery.
I quickly discovered that my fears and reluctance were unjustified. I was greeted with genuine concern and non-judgemental aid and assessment. Not only did I become better educated about the brain, but more importantly, I received the attention and healing I thought impossible to acquire. The format and methods of group sessions proved successful, especially with respect to social integration, how to function optimally outside one`s comfort zone, and simply listening and exchanging with others inside and outside the group.
The twenty week Coping Sessions program following the shorter session of brain education, coupled with on -going support and availability, gives me the confidence to return to the mainstream of the living once more.
To Whom It May Concern:
On behalf of myself and my family I can’t say enough how much the support of the Victoria Brain Injury Society has meant to me and my family. I started coming here several years ago for couselling as I was dealing with a husband who had a virus attack his brain. It was such a difficult time trying to deal with this person who I had fallen in love with and now he was no longer there in mind, just in body. I think that is one of the hardest things that you have to deal with - that you are now living with a stranger and not the one who was always there for you.
I learned from going to the family groups that so many other families were going through this same horrible ordeal and I was not alone. It was wonderful, the feeling that you were not alone. The counselors were so great and I spent some one on one time with them and the support from them was so reassuring. I wasn’t going crazy and I had to learn from their support to deal with the day to day situations as they came up. At times I felt I was blessed in a way, as so many of the women that were coming to the meetings were still dealing with young children. I was lucky because my children were grown and they had the opportunity to know what kind of a man my husband truly was, not the person he was now. All of the strength that I could get to carry on and deal with the problems came from the counselors or other people dealing with the same sad stories.
I can never thank the staff enough for the support they have given me. Even now that I have lost the love of my life I know that they are there for me and when I am going through a rough time I know that one of the counselors will be there for me.
The Victoria Brain Injury Society helps so many people and it is truly a shame that there is not enough financial support for them to be able to deal with so many more people because I am sure there are hundreds of people who are floundering as I was before I was directed to their office.
Thanks are not enough for all the support and guidance I received from the staff and continue to receive from them.